Diva - Managing your child's temper tantrums
It seems that Caleb has started this early. Although it's not those terrible lie-on-the-floor-wailing-away tantrums, it's still a fuss/cry when he don't gets what he wants. It's still very easy to distract him with other toys/activities now, but I wonder how it will be like in the future. Long (my hubby) and I did talk about this before. His stand is to walk away from Caleb. I wonder will I be able to handle it calmly or be those screaming-my-head-off-at-the-kid-mom.
Hopefully the article in the link will save me and for those who are reading!
Monday, 3 October 2011
YES u can do it! NO, stop pressing the button
Isn't it funny that we adults will encourage babies to do one thing, only to reprimand them for doing the same a couple of years later?
When our child is a baby, we will encourage them to press buttons, pick things up, stand n walk, etc. But a few years later, many of the kids will hear "stop pressing the button!", "put it down!" and "don't move!".
Why do we start to discourage them and bury their curiosity? Why do we stop their experimentation? Why do we stop them from being kids?
I hope that a couple of years later, I will still encourage my baby to scale new heights n experiment. I hope that I will still let my baby be a child. I hope that my child will enjoy his childhood.
So go ahead n press all the lift buttons. I'll just enjoy the longer lift ride home.
When our child is a baby, we will encourage them to press buttons, pick things up, stand n walk, etc. But a few years later, many of the kids will hear "stop pressing the button!", "put it down!" and "don't move!".
Why do we start to discourage them and bury their curiosity? Why do we stop their experimentation? Why do we stop them from being kids?
I hope that a couple of years later, I will still encourage my baby to scale new heights n experiment. I hope that I will still let my baby be a child. I hope that my child will enjoy his childhood.
So go ahead n press all the lift buttons. I'll just enjoy the longer lift ride home.
Friday, 30 September 2011
And so he graduated
Nope, not the baby. The love of my life has graduated from TP as the top student of his cohort today! Congrates dear.
Looking back at what he went through, I font think I would be as disciplined as him in going to classes n hanging in there. To get the top on top of all commitments, amazing.
PS: the baby graduated from babyhood to toddlerhood todae. He was able to walk 16 steps unaided!
Looking back at what he went through, I font think I would be as disciplined as him in going to classes n hanging in there. To get the top on top of all commitments, amazing.
PS: the baby graduated from babyhood to toddlerhood todae. He was able to walk 16 steps unaided!
Thursday, 29 September 2011
Conflict and Inner-Thoughts of the Month
Don't get me wrong. I'm very proud of my hubby for getting Top Student of his cohort for his Diploma. We're going for his graduation tomorrow, and I'll be clapping the loudest with tears glimmering in my eyes. My internal struggle is between my selfish pride, my rational self and my loving wife side.
Long is going to continue furthering his studies, with the Advance Diploma by Temasek Polytechnic and a degree by QUT (Queensland University of Technology). He has been invited to apply for the course, and will be applying for it tomorrow. The course will be starting on 17th of next month.
Rational self:
"Look at it this way. There's a possibility that I may need to resign to take care of the kids when number 2 comes. We do not wish to employ a maid and my MIL won't be able to handle 2 young kids by herself. Long will have to shoulder the burden of feeding 6 mouths all by himself. What better way to ensure that he is employed and has a higher chance of promotion or finding a better job outside, than to advance his studies?"
Rational self:
"Would you rather that he don't advance himself and stay as an 'O' Level student all his life? Would you rather yell at each other when there's no money? You may be able to live on love, but the children will need bread.
You're not career minded anyway. You will not need the degree if you most likely have to quit and care for the kids."
Rational self & Loving wife combined:
"With our powers combined, we vote to give him our fullest support for his studies. We deem the few years of sacrifice to be worth the long road ahead. We'll further make his studies easier by asking for a transfer. We'll think of ways to feed him well, and lessen his worries about the family."
Evidence of the win:
Long is going to continue furthering his studies, with the Advance Diploma by Temasek Polytechnic and a degree by QUT (Queensland University of Technology). He has been invited to apply for the course, and will be applying for it tomorrow. The course will be starting on 17th of next month.
Selfish pride:
"WHAT?? Continue studying?? I thought it's suppose to be MY turn to study? Didn't we agree on this already? I was suppose to study first. I was suppose to get my degree, but had to set it aside to pop the kid out. I have to further set my studies aside to pop another one out for the family! Look at the sacrifices I have to make for you to study.. Rush home to take care of the kid.. Hard for me to do late shifts.. Set aside my studies just for you to study when I want to study. It's NOT fair!!"
"WHAT?? Continue studying?? I thought it's suppose to be MY turn to study? Didn't we agree on this already? I was suppose to study first. I was suppose to get my degree, but had to set it aside to pop the kid out. I have to further set my studies aside to pop another one out for the family! Look at the sacrifices I have to make for you to study.. Rush home to take care of the kid.. Hard for me to do late shifts.. Set aside my studies just for you to study when I want to study. It's NOT fair!!"
Rational self:
"Look at it this way. There's a possibility that I may need to resign to take care of the kids when number 2 comes. We do not wish to employ a maid and my MIL won't be able to handle 2 young kids by herself. Long will have to shoulder the burden of feeding 6 mouths all by himself. What better way to ensure that he is employed and has a higher chance of promotion or finding a better job outside, than to advance his studies?"
Loving wife:
"Let's encourage him! Top student leh! It'll be such a waste not to continue. You can do it dear. So proud of you."
Selfish pride:
"Yah yah yah. He gets a degree. He finds a management job and has an affair outside while you be the 'yellow housewife' at home. He'll be yelling his enjoyment in the office, while you yell at the kids at home. Not fair, not fair, not fair. I WANT TO STUDY"
Rational self:
"Would you rather that he don't advance himself and stay as an 'O' Level student all his life? Would you rather yell at each other when there's no money? You may be able to live on love, but the children will need bread.
You're not career minded anyway. You will not need the degree if you most likely have to quit and care for the kids."
Loving wife:
"Long will never do that to you! *shock* He'll get his degree and feed you designer bread spread with sparkling love. You'll be able to spread your sparkling love on designer bread to feed the kids." *stars in eyes*
Rational self & Loving wife combined:
"With our powers combined, we vote to give him our fullest support for his studies. We deem the few years of sacrifice to be worth the long road ahead. We'll further make his studies easier by asking for a transfer. We'll think of ways to feed him well, and lessen his worries about the family."
Selfish pride:
*Roll eyes* "I reserve the right to tell you guys 'I told you so' when he's found diddling someone else in the office and not the naggy and saggy housewife."
Evidence of the win:
Tuesday, 27 September 2011
Forever & Always, by Parachute
A little sweet message from my hubby that I want to remember always~
He messaged me this morning with the youtube link to view this song, and that "It's what I wanna say to my laopo".
The lovely part of the song goes like this:
However, the song also talked (or rather, sang) about the guy getting into an accident and passed away as they said their vows in hospital.
I told my hubby that "Forever & always yes, but never to do that to me, as I don't wish to go to the hospital to see him"
He messaged me this morning with the youtube link to view this song, and that "It's what I wanna say to my laopo".
The lovely part of the song goes like this:
However, the song also talked (or rather, sang) about the guy getting into an accident and passed away as they said their vows in hospital.
I told my hubby that "Forever & always yes, but never to do that to me, as I don't wish to go to the hospital to see him"
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