Don't get me wrong. I'm very proud of my hubby for getting Top Student of his cohort for his Diploma. We're going for his graduation tomorrow, and I'll be clapping the loudest with tears glimmering in my eyes. My internal struggle is between my selfish pride, my rational self and my loving wife side.
Long is going to continue furthering his studies, with the Advance Diploma by Temasek Polytechnic and a degree by QUT (Queensland University of Technology). He has been invited to apply for the course, and will be applying for it tomorrow. The course will be starting on 17th of next month.
Selfish pride:
"WHAT?? Continue studying?? I thought it's suppose to be MY turn to study? Didn't we agree on this already? I was suppose to study first. I was suppose to get my degree, but had to set it aside to pop the kid out. I have to further set my studies aside to pop another one out for the family! Look at the sacrifices I have to make for you to study.. Rush home to take care of the kid.. Hard for me to do late shifts.. Set aside my studies just for you to study when I want to study. It's NOT fair!!"
Rational self:
"Look at it this way. There's a possibility that I may need to resign to take care of the kids when number 2 comes. We do not wish to employ a maid and my MIL won't be able to handle 2 young kids by herself. Long will have to shoulder the burden of feeding 6 mouths all by himself. What better way to ensure that he is employed and has a higher chance of promotion or finding a better job outside, than to advance his studies?"
Loving wife:
"Let's encourage him! Top student leh! It'll be such a waste not to continue. You can do it dear. So proud of you."
Selfish pride:
"Yah yah yah. He gets a degree. He finds a management job and has an affair outside while you be the 'yellow housewife' at home. He'll be yelling his enjoyment in the office, while you yell at the kids at home. Not fair, not fair, not fair. I WANT TO STUDY"
Rational self:
"Would you rather that he don't advance himself and stay as an 'O' Level student all his life? Would you rather yell at each other when there's no money? You may be able to live on love, but the children will need bread.
You're not career minded anyway. You will not need the degree if you most likely have to quit and care for the kids."
Loving wife:
"Long will never do that to you! *shock* He'll get his degree and feed you designer bread spread with sparkling love. You'll be able to spread your sparkling love on designer bread to feed the kids." *stars in eyes*
Rational self & Loving wife combined:
"With our powers combined, we vote to give him our fullest support for his studies. We deem the few years of sacrifice to be worth the long road ahead. We'll further make his studies easier by asking for a transfer. We'll think of ways to feed him well, and lessen his worries about the family."
Selfish pride:
*Roll eyes* "I reserve the right to tell you guys 'I told you so' when he's found diddling someone else in the office and not the naggy and saggy housewife."
Evidence of the win:
